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In The the importance of YOU and that YOU a fundamental truth about too many

are a priority. If you don’t take care of high achievers. They were successful
yourself, nobody else is going to. Self- in their work to the detriment of other
ZONE care includes what you do to hit the segments of their life.

Dr. Marika Lindholm, a sociologist
reset button and recharge.
This really resonates with me. who specializes in helping people
At the time of the Anaheim Ducks’ focus on wellness and self-care,
incident, I had met Alyse and I didn’t says, “Some employees identify
want to self-sabotage that relationship. so strongly with their work that
This is the one pillar I had to force they are compelled to work all the
With Justin Roethlingshoefer myself to work the hardest on because time. Increasing efficacy on the job
of trouble feeling good about myself. I had many bad habits and behaviors provides feelings of self-worth that
In my wealth of hindsight, my first
Own Your Self-Care experience with therapy was the intro I needed to change. I truly wanted to they don’t get anywhere else because
here is an old Yiddish expression help others in whatever I did; but I had they are working all the time and
class. I got my advanced courses as I
Tthat translates, “Man plans; God returned for more appointments. to first help myself. it becomes an addictive cycle. It’s
laughs.” It’s true that we can have the You don’t have to be in a crisis to So, how do you decide what your up to employers to set the tone by
best education, the sharpest strategic plan looks like? You know what encouraging employees to take time
seek out therapy; it can be a healthy,
mind, the strongest network, the proactive approach to facing a you like to do - make a list. Dream off and, of course, take vacations
deepest determination, and things still big and come up with ideas in time themselves.”
problem, or a multitude of them in
might not unfold as we planned. your life. Sometimes talking to a increments: what do you like to do that Dr. Lindholm says that signs of work
The human psyche is fragile. S. G. neutral party is an advantage because takes an hour, three hours, half a day, addiction include “not feeling alive
Thomas says in Psychiatric Services all day, a week, etc. Include a variety or worthy” unless you’re working,
they have no preconceived ideas about
that emotional fragility is extremely you. You end up going on a journey of things you enjoy. You can mix up losing sight of non-work related
different from emotional sensitivity. what you do. Pay attention to how passions and hobbies, neglecting self-
of discovery together as you unpack
Sensitivity is a quality you might what you’re dealing with and make a much time you can allow yourself, the care rituals like exercising, working
have. Meanwhile, fragility is a lack plan to move forward. time of year, where you are located, through meals, or feeling anxious or
of resources for managing your most etc. Playing golf in January in New guilty when you’re not working. Your
I discovered something very
complex internal states. There are a lot important during my counseling Hampshire might not be the best thing family and friends may even comment
of people who try to normalize their to schedule for yourself (though, with on your increased workload, and
process, especially the second time
emotional fragility. They make the around: I am responsible for my own climate change, who knows!). Maybe your relationships may suffer until a
excuse that it’s just how they live their happiness. High Performance Living you don’t have the time to take a four- change is made.
life. We are experts at making excuses hour walk on the beach, but you have There is one area of self-care that is a
can lead you to a happy, contented life,
and wearing masks. You might not but as you have seen, you have work to an hour to grab a massage. little different than we have discussed
even realize you’re emotionally You should always be open to so far - it is giving back. When we get
do to achieve it. It was realizing that I
sensitive or fragile until a series of am responsible for my own happiness spontaneous opportunities for self- involved in an organization or a charity,
events triggers the fragility. that led to the Pillar of Self-Care. care. If a friend calls you, you know we give of ourselves, our talent, our
When most people think of a hockey you’ll end up laughing, so speak time and energy, and the return on
Wellness has to do with exercise,
player, they think tough. If they hear nutrition, sleep, and anything else with him or her. If you get a good our investment is incalculable; it is
“goalie,” they believe the person is chuckle or big belly laugh out of your a fundamental element of our core.
that sustains good health. Self-care
even tougher, or crazy to block solid is protecting your emotional health, conversation, that’s a bonus. Laughter Simon Sinek talks about the effect of
pieces of rubber coming at them at minimizing your stress, and enjoying is truly the best medicine and being oxytocin in our brain with the “give
a hundred miles an hour. I thought open to that will give you a significant back effect.” The more we give our
activities that are important to you.
no differently, and it took a series of When I started pondering the Self- boost at any time of the day. time and energy to a cause and a
events—a suicide attempt, divorce, Besides the little things, you also person, the more oxytocin (the feel-
Care pillar, I recalled something I
and being relieved of my duties with learned in a time-management session have to do some thinking about the good drug) is produced in our brain.
the Ducks—for me to see a completely at Craig Ballantyne’s retreat. We were bigger self-care options. Everyone If we give someone twenty dollars on
different side of myself. When my wife should try to take a vacation at the street corner, we may feel good for
in the middle of creating our schedule
left and I had addictions to fight, it was and he said, “Before you fill out your least once a year. It could be a long a moment, but no time or energy has
sheer determination and resiliency weekend, a week, two weeks in been spent. If we go to the orphanage
calendar with work appointments, kid
that helped me get back on track, in activities, doctor visits, and all that Europe, whatever. I remember when and paint for a Saturday, or serve a
addition to seeking help from coaches stuff, put your highest priority task the last Summer Olympics were on holiday meal, we have given our time
and therapists. There’s tremendous TV and there was a commercial for and energy and that effect is longer
and yourself in your calendar first,
value in talking to a trained therapist. because if you don’t, it’s too easy to a luxury car where the actor was lasting.
I recognized for the first time that saying how we work hard in America, Look for something that matters
have it pushed aside.”
I had major self-esteem issues, Ballantyne’s directive emphasizes and we don’t care about things like a to you. If you like working with
vulnerability issues, and a whole lot vacation. I realize now how he nailed Continued on page 35